Survivors evacuating from the scene of a mass shooting on December 2, 2015 in San Bernardino, California.
“I
think that this is going to be a very hotly debated shooting as far as
what this represents,” Jennifer Carlson, an assistant professor of
sociology at the University of Toronto, tells
Glamour. “We don’t know enough about it yet to diagnose this,” adds Carlson, who is also the author of
Citizen-Protectors: The everyday politics of guns in an age of decline.
With so much uncertainty, it’s natural to feel helpless and wonder how to make sense of this tragedy, especially when
mass shootings in
the U.S. and
abroad
are happening all too frequently. Is it possible to feel safe in a
world that feels increasingly unsafe? Whether you are close to the
horrific event or miles away, are there ways to find comfort after a
terrifying act of gun violence occurs?
According to
Melissa Cohen,
a psychotherapist in private practice, there may be. “What makes people
feel most vulnerable in circumstances like this, is that they feel
powerless, and like there is nothing they can do,” Cohen tells
Glamour.
“One way to combat that feeling is to use this as a call to action.”
Whether that means donating to the victims, supporting a political
leader who represents your views on gun laws, or learning more about how
to make your community safer, all of those things can be productive
ways to cope.
“One of the best things you can do is to channel
your emotional reaction and fear, and demand change,” says Lankford, who
is the author of
The Myth of Martyrdom: What really drives suicide bombers, rampage shooters, and other self-destructive killers.
That’s what Sarah Clements has done. Her mother was a second grade teacher at
Sandy Hook elementary school
in Newtown, Connecticut, when the mass shooting took place there on
December 14, 2012. Her mother survived, but the Clements family was
forever changed, and Clements, now a sophomore at Georgetown in D.C.,
now advocates for gun reform legislation.
“It’s traumatizing and very destabilizing every time there is a mass shooting,” Clements tells
Glamour.
“And though it takes me a while after a shooting to really truly
believe this, I do remember that since 12/14—since Newtown—we have made
strides and changes, and it helps me remember that our work is not in
vain.”
For example, an
online petition
Clements started calling for more gun violence research has garnered
more than 120,000 signatures as of press time. Clements has also found
strength by joining forces with fellow advocates. “We’ve been able to
pass expanded background checks in multiple states in the past three
years and we’ve passed legislation in states to close loopholes that
would allow domestic abusers and stalkers to access firearms,” she said.
“There are lots of wins that have happened. It’s hard to remember in
the aftermath of shooting after shooting, but we have to remember that
and take comfort in the fact that these wins do mean something.”
Another
way to move forward in the face of fear: “Dwell in gratitude, not in
fear,” says Cohen. “Rather than waking up afraid every day, wake up
grateful. “Hug your kids tighter. Call your mom or your friend.”
It’s
also key to think practically about your safety. “Report it if someone
in your sphere is having problems,” says Lankford, who notes that after
mass shootings happen, it often becomes clear that there were red flags
early on that were missed concerning the suspects. “If everyone is
paying attention to their co-workers and community members, you can
prevent potential problems.”
And remember to react within
reason. When scary events such as these take place and they permeate in
the news, people experience secondary trauma, says Cohen. “It’s
important to get control of your thoughts and remember that bad things
don’t happen to everybody all day all the time, so that you’re not
re-traumatizing yourself,” she adds. “You could spend your life not
being present because you’re worried, or you could really soak in every
blessing that is offered to you.”
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